Where Did We Get the Idea of A Honeymoon?

Going on a honeymoon is the first real opportunity to spend time alone as man and wife, but how did this tradition come to be?

Where Did The Idea of Honeymoons Come From?

As all couples know, planning the perfect honeymoon is just as important as planning the wedding day itself. Traditionally the first vacation that you will take as a married couple (and presumably when the couple will consummate the union), a honeymoon has become the period of time where a couple can rest and recharge after going through the stress and excitement of the wedding ceremony. But why do we take these trips? The idea of a honeymoon originates far back in time, and did not originate as the vacation trip we take now.

There are many variations on the story of where the honeymoon began. As far as the word itself goes, the first regular usage in the English language can be dated back to the 16th century. Many stories of how honeymoons came to be report that the idea of a honeymoon started much earlier than that date, but it is hard to tell whether these are fact or fiction.

One idea that is repeated by most people is that the word “honeymoon” was used to describe an ancient Babylonian tradition where the father of the bride would give the groom all the mead (honey wine) he could drink for the first month (moon) of marriage. This was supposed to give the couple a boost to their fertility. While this idea is widely accepted as fact, since the word honeymoon was not used at this time (Babylon fell far before the 16th century), historians cannot be sure that this is where the custom and word honeymoon came from.

Another version comes from Norse beginnings. It is said to loosely be rooted in the word “hjunottsmanathr”. This is not a happy tradition, rather it was said to be necessary as many brides of the time were abducted from other tribes and the groom was required to hide his bride until her family stopped looking for her. Thus, the honeymoon was more of a kidnapping than anything else.

A third idea is that in Northern European cultures, a “moon” was representative of the monthly cycle of the body – and honey was said to represent how sweet the first one of these months was for a married couple. The word was a caution, that future “moons” in the marriage may not be as sweet as the honeymoon.

Although these ancient traditions don’t involve sweet candies, exclusive beaches, exotic foods and wines, and romantic resort suites, we believe in the twenty-first century that some of these things are must haves for every honeymoon couple. Just like everything else in the world, honeymoons have evolved a great deal to become the great romantic getaway of a lifetime in which they are known to be today.

No matter which tradition you choose to believe, one thing is clear: the honeymoon is here to stay. In current times, honeymoons rarely last a full month, and most couples are well aware that the sweet and calming romance of their first married month will have struggles and disputes in the future. Their content to enjoy their honeymoon and married life as it comes.

Taken in part from an article by: Richard Rspad, July 2, 2007

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